Wade Poe

I've found that a lot of people who want to understand those who are deconstructing only understand  it if you "come at them" with how they are seen as "the church".  At least initially.  For some, it's a wake up to find out that it's not just people deciding to "go off and sin" or "become atheists.   So here's a little of that. For those in a church - you have or find a comfy place there where God is accessible in some way.  There’s a somewhat understandable way things are done, and the general point is easy to follow - you show up, be part of the group, contribute, and be supportive. The idea that God might have had something else in mind is unthinkable. "What else could there be?  Church has been like this since the 1st century, hasn’t it?  What else could God have possibly have intended?" The church is a closed system. If you want in, you join it - if you weren't born into it. You follow its rules and norms. Tru...

Everyone's doing it now. In the past two years since I began a public journey of deconstruction and rebuilding, it's become very popular.   It probably was going on a lot but I just didn't see it until the last few months because of the algorithms on social media - now it seems like everyone is doing it.   Yes, there's a good bit of hyperbole there with "everyone", but that's the nature of algorithms - to reinforce what you have posted about and connect you with other, similar things or posts. The difference I've noticed with all the new people on TikTok, Instagram, X, and Facebook is how many people who are or "have already" deconstructed are heading out into new and different directions. A good number have thrown scripture and tradition as a whole out the window and are making their own thing entirely.  Maybe using scripture or Jesus as a springboard for their ideas, but that's about it. Some are simply throwing churches and religion in...

A lot of the questions I'd get from people when doing many years of "full-time ministry" and some years of college instruction was "Is it normal to ___________?" It usually seemed to take a while for the person or the couple to approach a subject and ask the question. Two or three marriages counseling appointments in or a couple of office hour visits to get a sense of what I thought of something. They would sometimes "beat around the bush" to get the sense of who I was/am and what I thought about a range of topics before they'd ask. And they wouldn't always ask it that way - "Is it normal to __________?".   Sometimes they'd bring something up over and over and it became obvious they wanted guidance based on what they shared they'd been doing so far in life. People want to know "Am I normal?".   It was often sad to know that many of those people didn't have someone or somewhere in their life where they could ask q...

As I kind of expected, the response to the post about forgiveness that used Philip Yancey as an example had a mixed response.  Many 100% on the side of forgiveness and moving on in grace, mercy, and such. And then there were those who felt sorrow or even outrage about how those (specifically his wife) impacted by Philip Yancey's decisions were overlooked or dismissed as irrelevant to the discussion. In fairness, they were irrelevant to that post because it was about how forgiveness is ridiculous, over the top, undeserved, and often not fully practiced by a lot of us, even when we think and hope we are. To some degree, the responses displayed the point being made: how hard forgiveness is and the wide range of opinions that people - believers and non-believers alike - can have about what it looks like. Some people want a pound of flesh -- some revenge, pain, or shame to be given -- for the person who has asked for forgiveness to not be released from the heat of the moment without ...

One of the fascinating things I learned many years ago was learning how people and groups process and work through life through the really big story they learn and live out. Even if you don't know it, you're living inside of a narrative or story that you heard growing up and have modified over time to fit with the experiences you've had. The big life story I heard or saw growing up was that you finish school at some point, go to work in a job or career, get married and have kids at some point, raise those kids till they move out to start their own life, and then work till you retire, and then spend a few years doing a few things you enjoy before you die and go to heaven to be with God and everyone who went before you. That was the background story for most all of life for me.   Still is to some degree - though it's been modified heavily over time - it's still the shadow that's cast over the way life is assumed to unfold. _______________ I heard variations of it ...

Earlier this year, it was announced that Philip Yancey, popular and successful Christian author, had confessed to a long term affair and was stepping away from public ministry.   Not only was he given much grief over his confession, but was also accused by some of just trying to make sure his wife didn't leave him since he'd been recently diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease. Here was the guy who wrote the very impactful book, "Disappointment with God", many years back, and now many people were experiencing great disappointment with Philip Yancey.  The online reaction was surprisingly brutal. _______________ It's a hard thing to be disappointed.  It does something to you.  I remember other popular authors or influencers over the years having a public fall from grace and the weird times when you'd later want to quote them or refer to one of their previous works and, all of a sudden, you felt like you either could not use them anymore or had to qualify what yo...